Properties of Matter

(One of my friends emailed me that "Nature is everyone's friend indeed because its the same for everyone", and that sparked off the thought process that entails this blog.)

I didnt mean for the title to sound like a high school physics lesson, but I've learned that those three words have plenty of wisdom packed in them. The property of fire is to burn, of water is to cool - stating the obvious? perhaps...bear with me, I will come to my point. We don't expect anything other than a substance's property and we merely maneuver our way around nature's properties...Why then, do we expect people to be different than they are? If a person's property is to sting with words, or another's property is forgetfulness, why do we take it personal and expect them to be more of our property?
I've realized that most often, people do a certain thing, not because they want to hurt you, but because they honestly dont think they have any other choice for their personal happiness or whatever comes close to it.

We humans are selfish beings and I dont mean it in a derogatory way. Being selfish is one of our properties. Even when we do good to someone else, its because we feel good doing so. Selflessness may be a virtuous trait, but I honestly believe its un-natural for humans to be so.

I believe most of the time we 'expect' something of someone (that they normally wouldnt do), we are really saying, "do something thats un-natural for you, something thats not your property, but something I want. " We probably think they are unkind, thoughtless, unloving for doing things that they do. Implicit in that thought, is the truth that we are unkind for expecting others' behavior to be consistent with our desires.
What do you think???